{"id":8023,"date":"2025-08-13T09:07:24","date_gmt":"2025-08-13T06:07:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/horizonnews.co.ke\/?p=8023"},"modified":"2025-08-13T09:07:24","modified_gmt":"2025-08-13T06:07:24","slug":"i-lived-a-life-trying-to-please-him-and-i-almost-lost-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonnews.co.ke\/?p=8023","title":{"rendered":"I lived a life trying to please him and I almost lost it"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"m#msg-a:r571008949079161159\" class=\"mail-message expanded\">\n<div id=\"m#msg-a:r571008949079161159-header\" class=\"mail-message-header spacer\"><\/div>\n<div id=\"m#msg-a:r571008949079161159-content\" class=\"mail-message-content collapsible zoom-normal  \">\n<div class=\"clear\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<p>When my mother first met him, she was not for him at all. She warned me repeatedly, \u201cAre you really sure?\u201d but in my heart, I kept telling myself, I love him, and he loves me.<\/p>\n<p>What else matters if not love? From the pre-wedding season, I noticed I was not excited. Everything I wore, I had bought myself. Almost everything people used during the wedding came from me, and it felt overwhelming.<\/p>\n<p>When I finally admitted it, I realised I had financed ninety percent of the entire wedding, even the rings we wore when signing at the AG\u2019s office. I bought them, took them for engraving, and still, the love I thought I was securing ended with him saying he had never loved me, was happy I left, and had already found somebody better.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, long before that wedding, I had come from a complicated childhood. Raised by a single mother in Eldoret, life was peaceful until my stepfather entered the picture, bringing new siblings, an unfinished home, and the tensions of polygamy.<\/p>\n<p>I quickly became a co-parent to my younger siblings, while silently navigating the friction between my mother\u2019s marriage and the existing family.<\/p>\n<p>Years later, as an adult, I thought love would be my redemption. But my first relationship ended in heartbreak and the loss of a pregnancy. Then came my ex-husband, the man I thought was different.<\/p>\n<p>I opened up to him about my deepest scars, including the abuse I endured from a relative who manipulated and controlled my life for nearly two years. I was vulnerable, and he seemed supportive. But over time, his love grew toxic.<\/p>\n<p>It reached a point where I could not recognise myself. I was drained, constantly second guessing my worth, and walking on eggshells to avoid conflict. My mother\u2019s warnings echoed louder in my head, and my health, emotionally and mentally, began to crumble.<\/p>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<div>READ ALSO\u00a0\u00a0Pastor\u2019s Son Robs Church, Blames Devil and Says It Was Wi-Fi Frustration That Drove Him<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>That is when I sought help from\u00a0<a href=\"tel:+254795613711\">Shaba Mangube Doctors throu<\/a>gh their phone numbertel:<a href=\"tel:+254795613711\">+254795613711\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0They introduced me to their Binding Spell, designed to reduce a person\u2019s toxicity and restore balance in relationships.<\/p>\n<p>It was not about controlling someone\u2019s free will. It was about calming the storms within them, breaking cycles of hurtful behaviour, and giving space for healthier communication.<\/p>\n<p>The results were profound. Arguments lessened, his tone softened, and for the first time in years, I felt safe expressing myself without fear of verbal attacks or silent punishments. I could finally breathe again.<\/p>\n<p>While not every relationship can be saved, the Binding Spell gave me clarity. It showed me whether love could truly heal with less toxicity and when it was time to walk away with my dignity intact.<\/p>\n<p>If you are in a relationship where the love feels buried under anger, control, or manipulation,\u00a0<a href=\"tel:+254795613711\">Shaba Mangube Doctors<\/a>\u00a0can help restore peace or reveal the truth you need to move forward. You do not have to keep breaking yourself to fix someone else.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"m#msg-a:r571008949079161159-footer\" class=\"mail-message-footer spacer collapsible\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When my mother first met him, she was not for him at all. She warned me repeatedly, \u201cAre you really sure?\u201d but in my heart, I kept telling myself, I love him, and he loves me. What else matters if not love? 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